Courage has a different connotation

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What do you mean by courage ? How do you define it? Well , it depends on the perspective you look at it from . I believe-from my experience and understanding of situations – there are two types of courage : the first and essential one the Internal courage and the next one and the less noble one the External Courage . Before I articulate further on this topic of courage I need you to perform a simple task or activity(whatever you call it) .Take a plain paper and pen and note down the things that you ever wanted to do but you are not able to do because of some reasons , simply put , note down all your fears that are inhibiting your personal mastery and the road to freedom and happiness. Go to the next para only if you have completed the above task ,it is ok if you feel the list is not perfect , let it be, just jot down the things that come to your mind instantly.

I believe there is fear in every exciting thing that we do, even  a professional speaker who has given 100 seminars is terrified when he gets on to the stage for the next time or even the great Roger Federer is terrified for the next Wimbledon. Fear develops internally whenever we do a thing we love to do or an important task , there lies mastery , as Susan Jeffers beautifully put it “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” , first acknowledge that there is a fear lurking inside and next just kill it , the fear gets washed away i.e it is always a mental battle between your action and inaction -action kills fear and inaction breeds fear . The reason I explained what fear is and how to defeat it on the face is because it is essential for the understanding of internal and external courage.

Many people get confused between the different connotations of courage and their varied applications . I can better explain this with an aid of an example.  Riding bike with 100 + speed on a highway to appease the opposite gender is not courage , it implies the person is not valuing his life properly and it is not internal courage either it is useless external courage .Smoking a cigar in front of everybody is not courage it is just external  courage again and the list goes on .Take risks “in life” not “with life” .

Some of the important things/acts that require internal courage :

  • Asking for what you truly want (to whomever it may be)
  • Being Honest with yourself (the most difficult one)
  • Following your passion
  • Being “out and out dissatisfied” with the status-quo
  • To Quit the job who you hate
  • Standing out from the crowd
  • Delayed Gratification to achieve a higher purpose
  • Believing in your self and intuitions
  • To do what you love.
  • To achieve financial freedom
  • To have self discipline
  • To exude confidence
  • To control temper ..et cetra

All the above things require courage , true internal courage to win the inner battle with fear and to come out victorious
It doesn’t mean external courage is not required , external courage is ‘sometimes’ a by-product of pure internal courage, it is a manifestation of internal courage working inside you . So from next time don’t worry about the external one and concentrate more on developing the “True Courage”

Raviteja Visakoti 

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My Top 5 books

I felt like sharing the 5 books that I would normally suggest to anybody who want to improve their lives though in whatever situation or range they might be in at present , these timeless gems will be helpful to not just improve but also take you to an elevated state .

Numero Uno : Rich Dad Poor Dad 

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This is the most powerful book that I have ever read in my life , every person that reads this book will have 2 complete states of mind i.e before reading the book and after completing it . Though it mainly focuses on personal finance , it is more of a book that changes your perspective on money and how you wish to see yourself after a few years. Do you want to keep your house in control(monetarily) ?, do you want to become a millionaire or billionaire or superb entrepreneur? then go for it now without a speck of doubt!! rest Mr.Kiyosaki will take care

Number 2 : Man’s Search for Meaning in life

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Are you complaining about the trivial things? or feeling dejected and lost that your partner/spouse recently broke up with you or cheated on you? Then you should remember that your own life is beautifully more wonderful and better than that of countless people . This book is about a doctor who is captured into a Nazi concentration camp where life is a million times horrible than hell -his parents,wife,friends were all gassed to death and he still survived in that inferno and never gave up. My favorite lines from the book “It is not what you expect from life , it is that what life expects from you” . It is one of the books that created a “Deep Positive Impact on my thinking” towards philosophy and life.

Number 3 : The War of Art

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I have already stated the significance of this book in my previous articles ,this is a self help book with a difference– it is a diamond I would say, it almost cured my procrastination(one form of the Dangerous Resistance) problem. Steven Pressfield is a genius writer, a magician of words and cuts directly to the problem and gives an awesome solution.Go for it if you are struggling to start anything or if you are frittering away time even though you know what to do at the moment and not doing it and thereby feeling guilty . I want to say more about this “vital gem” but you will be more satisfied if you read it by yourself.The book is costly but I would say to buy it , I can solemnly say you wont be disappointed and its content’s worth is way more than its price!

Number 4 : Kane and Abel

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I have read many novels after reading this epic and still could not find even a close competition to it , Jeffrey Archer beats it all in this book-be it Agatha Cristie , Stephen King , Dan Brown or even the great Sidney Sheldon . If at all you want to imbibe reading as your habit , start with this book . This book takes you to a new world , new people(the characters) and new places . You will relish every page of the book , it includes everything that audience want suspense, drama, romance, revenge and many more . It is more entertaining than a 9.5/10 IMDB rated hollywood movie !!

Number 5 but not the last : Think and Grow Rich

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Do you want to read the mother of all self help books? Then go for Think and Grow rich , it has some very formidable topics that if you assimilate correctly and apply will no doubt take you to the highest level . But frankly speaking not all chapters are required on this book , some I personally feel are not required and applicable but nevertheless the first few chapters are eye openers especially the topic on “Belief”

– Raviteja Visakoti 

How to be Open Minded ?

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I need not restate the importance of being open minded, but to rephrase – It is the ability or skill or trait ( whatever you choose to call it ) to receive incoming knowledge and /or experiences and to imbibe and also utilize them in such a way that they may  replace past knowledge or experience in the best interests of us.

Open mindedness is not just crucial to professional growth but it is also vital to both spiritual and personal growth. It is the courage needed to discard old beliefs, dangerous half knowledge, biased feelings and highly poisonous prejudices.

The key to open mindedness is you have to acknowledge the fact that there may be a possibility that your idea/opinion/thinking may be wrong and believe that there may be other better ideas/opinions/thoughts.

Obviously every person can’t know everything and every person cannot be accurate and be taking the best decisions all the time. True achievement lies in leveraging your skills by constructive exchange of knowledge ( I meant exchange I.e both incoming and outgoing) with countless people.

I need not go more on the definitive side of open mindedness as many wise people have defined it and also stated its awesome advantages. I am going to share with you the techniques that I invented for unlocking open mindedness, I call them half snake and full snake concept and I will share them with you.

Half Snake concept : I want to anologise this with the half knowledge( it is not exactly half, it may even be 10 % or 99 %) that we have with us, many a time people come to conclusions based on the half knowledge present rather than understanding the broader picture, in simple terms it is like a half snake present in your head, careening on a tree here and there(imagine the picture mentally in your mind now) and not allowing new knowledge or opinions to enter into your brain – why? because this is a highly poisonous snake and new knowledge is as pure and fresh as a jasmine flower and it doesn’t like to get poisoned off with that deadly half snake.

Full Snake concept : This is the most dangerous situation, as the name suggests, the snake is full grown and completely occupied the brain’s thought process. This snake not just blocks the beautiful jasmines but it doesn’t even allow other half snakes. The greatest pity with full snake concept is that people don’t realize that their minds are completely filled with wrong and misleading information and thoughts, they just simply think they are always correct and always great and they have a terrible false illusion that their database needs no new data!!

Solution : When there is poison there is also an antidote or a medicine to eliminate or at-least control the effect of poison, as I already said it is about identifying that your opinion is wrong, here it is to identify the snake first and next identify that it is poisonous, then we can get the correct antidote so that we can design a wonderful garden minus snakes for the jasmines.

Finally, I am not saying you should always welcome others’ ideas, it is about judgement, you should be able to judge which opinion is correct and which one is not. Associate an opinion with the level that touches your wisdom not on the level of the person associated with that opinion. I mean all bill gates’ opinions may not be in the best interest of you but sometimes your high school teacher can give a better opinion and for that judgement to be done you have to be open minded !!

Raviteja Visakoti